What Your Wife Wants You To Know - For Men
A six‑session formation journey for men — engaged and married together — exploring what the long‑married already know: that loving one woman is not a problem to solve but a person to know. Each week dismantles the management reflex and invites men into the gospel order of grace‑first, overflow‑second — learning to see, bear, speak, receive, lay down, and stay through the slow apprenticeship of Christlike love. Peer‑to‑peer tone, veteran witness, and lived honesty guide men from performance into transformation.
What's Included
When you pull this study into your workspace, these items come with it.
- Lessons6
Teaching sessions adapted for your audience.
- Handouts6
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- Discussion Guides0
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- Slides0
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What You'll Study
She's Not a Problem to Manage
1 Peter 3:7; Genesis 2:18; John 4
Seeing — sets the frame
Learning Objectives
Participants will recognize the reflex to manage their wife as a system rather than know her as a person. They will explore 1 Peter 3:7 and Genesis 2:18 to see that understanding begins with grace, not control. By the end, each man will name one practical way to shift from “handling” his wife to truly dwelling with her in understanding.
She Carries Things You Don't See
Galatians 6:2; Genesis 3:16; Philippians 2:3–4
Attentiveness
Learning Objectives
Participants will identify unseen burdens their wife carries and examine how inattentiveness can wound love. Through Galatians 6:2 and Philippians 2:3–4, they will learn that bearing begins with seeing, not fixing. Each man will choose one small act of shared attentiveness that lightens her load.
Words Build or Bury
James 3:1–12; Ephesians 4:29
Stewardship of the Tongue
Learning Objectives
Participants will understand that their words create the spiritual and emotional climate of their home. They will study James 3 and Ephesians 4:29 to discern how speech can either build or erode trust. Each man will practice framing his humor and tone so that his words consistently give grace.
God May Be Speaking Through Her
1 Samuel 25
Reception and Humility
Learning Objectives
Participants will grasp that God may use their wife’s perspective to speak wisdom or correction into their life. They will reflect on 1 Samuel 25 and learn to distinguish reverent listening from appeasement. Each man will identify one area where humility and receptivity to his wife’s counsel could open space for God’s direction.
Laying Down, Not Leading Over
Ephesians 5:25–33; Philippians 2:5–8
Self‑Giving Love
Learning Objectives
Participants will explore how Christ redefines headship as self‑giving love rather than control. Through Ephesians 5 and Philippians 2, they will see that laying down is the shape of true leadership. Each man will articulate one concrete way to “go under, not over” in his marriage this week.
The Long Faithfulness
Genesis 2:24; 1 Corinthians 13:4–8
Staying and Becoming
Learning Objectives
Participants will embrace long‑term faithfulness as the slow work of becoming like Christ. They will meditate on Genesis 2:24 and 1 Corinthians 13 to see love as endurance, not early spark. Each man will commit to one practice that cultivates lasting grace and staying power in his covenant.
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This study adapts to your church
When you bring this study into your workspace, it adapts to your theological convictions, your teaching context, and your audience. No other curriculum does this.
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